Speaking from Wisdom

“I am not young enough to know everything.”

― Oscar Wilde

In almost three decades of working with elders and their families, I have observed that agers seem to “lose their voice” when topics turn inward. When I ask what wisdom they can share, the inevitable reaction is “Wisdom? What wisdom? I don’t have any.”

Aging guarantees experience

It is true that as we get older, we recognize how much we do not know. But for all the questions wanting answers that age brings, it also always brings knowledge and experience.

“Wisdomating” happens over the years, whether we realize it or not.

Think of all you have gained during your time on earth. Your myriad experiences of loss and love have shaped your journey. This is your wisdom. And I encourage you to share what you’ve learned thus far.

Think of ordinary struggles in your life — making decisions, maintaining relationships, practicing self-care. Have you ever felt overwhelmed or wondered about what step to take next? Can you put words to your feelings of struggle?

Experience brings wisdom

I understand that you may want to diminish the value of what you have learned. You know what you know. So what’s the big deal? I want you to recognize how your experience is useful to others, even – or especially — the young.

Of course, wisdom isn’t reserved for the elders. Young people have gained plenty of wisdom over their short lifespans too. Wisdom is about experience. When you face struggles, you come eye to eye with your strengths and weaknesses. In the end, you make better decisions, learn how to create better options, and become stronger and more empowered. You learn from experience. And agers just have had more of it.

Sharing wisdom enriches lives

Agers who acknowledge their own wisdom find a source of strength from experiences they have had in life. And speaking up and sharing what you’ve learned is what holds self, families, and communities together.

When someone asks you what you would do in a situation, use your voice. Tell them! Take the chance of revealing your inner truths. Speaking from wisdom is a far deeper way to share your journey. Let me know how it works for you.